No More Negative Chatter

It never ceases to amaze me that just when you are all set to bet on you, others point out reasons why you shouldn’t. I call this negative chatter. It can bring you down, set you back, and stop you from reaching your goals. But only if you let it.

When I talked to people about wanting to start a consulting company, I heard many reasons about why I shouldn’t do it, including “this is not the time to start a business,” and “most businesses fail in the first five years,” and so on. It reminded me of two other times in my life when I was discussing big life decisions: when I got engaged—almost 20 years ago—and every miserable married person told me how 50 percent of marriages fail, so I should think before I say “I do,” and when I was pregnant with our first daughter and everyone felt compelled to share their horrible labor stories with me.

If I had listened to the negative chatter, I would never have gotten married, had kids, worked a job, graduated from college, or started a business. Don’t let negative shatter deflate your dreams or sabotage your self worth. Here, four tips to help you tune out the chatter.

1. Consider the source of the negativity and remind yourself what’s right about your decision. Commit to looking at all things positively and don’t be afraid to look into the future.
2. See yourself five years down the road living the successful life, knowing that what you are doing now is setting the stage for what you want to do.
3. Dare to dream big. Don’t limit yourself by doubting your skill and ambition before you even try to make your dreams become reality. Doubts are dead ends we set for ourselves. You only fail when you choose not to try.
4. Keep moving forward and don’t look back—even if that means you have to leave some people behind sometimes. They may not have your best interest at heart. Choose not to take the negative chatter with you.

So tell me, how do you say no to no more to negative chatter?
Email me at Patricia@xpectresults.com